tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post339636150680072107..comments2024-01-29T14:44:29.902-05:00Comments on Castling Queen Side: What Would You Do?Pollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-32870737732253709672009-03-25T14:48:00.000-04:002009-03-25T14:48:00.000-04:00Pawn: It was very clear that it was a kid with an ...Pawn: It was very clear that it was a kid with an attitude. Shy kids don't make a comment like "Ready any time you are.", and just press the clock. His tone of voice and body language was the give away.<BR/><BR/>It wasn't so much the lack of a handshake it was the abruptness. I have played an Orthodox Jew at the Marshall on numerous occasions. He will not shake my hand because I'm a woman. That's part of his culture and religion. However we always acknowledge each other at the beginning and end of the game.<BR/><BR/>There was another instance when I was playing someone who had recently had an organ transplant. He was not allowed to shake hands with anyone. The third time I played him after his transplant I didn't even try to shake hands. He stuck his hand out, and said "it's okay now."<BR/><BR/>One time I would not shake hands with my opponent at the start of game. That's because right as we got ready to start he sneezed hard into his hand. I did not want to make contact with what ever might be there. I said "Good luck" and we started playing.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-21054719905717775422009-03-24T22:31:00.000-04:002009-03-24T22:31:00.000-04:00You couldnt have know what kind of person he was f...You couldnt have know what kind of person he was from the non hand shake. He could have been painfully shy or something like that. Rude yes but you cant predict behavior by it. However, after that experience it should be mandatory shake every time. <BR/><BR/>Try staring your opponent in the eye while you put out your hand and keep a relatively emotionless face that says "hey Im dead serious and a little freindly." If possible or up against an intimidating person try to do it while your still standing and he is sitting. These are some of the techniques I use when approaching hostile patients. As its best to establish a no bull relationship rather than watch things get out of hand like with that punk kid.Pawn Shamanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01840080140537499257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-10367590673618959892009-03-21T12:20:00.000-04:002009-03-21T12:20:00.000-04:00Tanc: I think rude and obnoxious adults are more a...Tanc: I think rude and obnoxious adults are more annoying then kids. Adults are old enough to know better then to be slamming the clock, or not being gracious after the game win or lose.<BR/><BR/>Anon: Yes, it does seem to come down to me playing kids, and the stories I tell based on those encounters. I guess I find the kids vs Polly encounters more interesting at times. Though if you go through the archives and read about my encounters with Steve C, Larry T., Gabor S, Ken C, Eric H, etc you will find I've had some interesting encounters with adults too.<BR/><BR/>Gene: It's a tough call. With some players it may have shifted the social discomfort back to them. I think with this particular player it may not have mattered either way. He came across like a lone wolf who has trouble relating to people. <BR/><BR/>His last round opponent is a very talkative kid, who likes engage people in discussion. I know, because I've had many long conversations with this particular kid debating the merits of everything from rating floors, study habits, resignations, openings, etc. He talked my ear off the entire drive up to the tournament. :-)<BR/><BR/>I'm not going to begin to analyze what issues may be going on in that kid's life to cause him to be so anti-social. It was obvious he couldn't handle Mr. Talkative and lashed out with inappropriate name calling.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps if a similar thing happens again, I will stop the clock and ask for a do over in the proper manner. In my 35+ years of tournament play I don't think I've ever had that happen before. Hopefully it will be another 35 years before I see it happen again. (I hope I still have my mental faculties, to still be playing in tournaments in 35 years.)Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-53986686676241234832009-03-21T02:11:00.000-04:002009-03-21T02:11:00.000-04:00Call Tony Soprano and ask him if he has any associ...Call Tony Soprano and ask him if he has any associates in teh area who could teach this brat a lesson.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-87956764894181230802009-03-21T00:53:00.000-04:002009-03-21T00:53:00.000-04:00It does not matter whether the rude kid knows that...It does not matter whether the rude kid knows that his rude behavior made you feel uncomfortable, no need to hide that from him.<BR/><BR/>If you had refused his too-abrupt start of the clock, your refusal would have established your social power and reversed the discomfort onto him.<BR/><BR/>More importantly, you would have helped him learn social norms, and helped everyone else he will otherwise subsequently abuse.<BR/><BR/>Easy for us to judge now, whereas you had only seconds to think it thru.<BR/><BR/>GeneM<BR/>CastleLong.com , for FRC-chess960Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-50569928845343233822009-03-20T23:49:00.000-04:002009-03-20T23:49:00.000-04:00anon: If they're at the table when you're setting ...anon: If they're at the table when you're setting up I agree! Though what can be annoying is you arrive at the board. Your opponent has taken out his set, has set up his side, but left your pieces in a pile for you to set up. Lazy?Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-91156650215868847552009-03-20T15:13:00.000-04:002009-03-20T15:13:00.000-04:00What annoys me the most are players who refuse to ...What annoys me the most are players who refuse to help set up your pieces before the game. It's like they're not responsible for them or something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-83045712711235622682009-03-20T10:18:00.000-04:002009-03-20T10:18:00.000-04:00Yes, I once saw an adult blow a won game and then ...Yes, I once saw an adult blow a won game and then sit there and let the full 2 hours of his time expire before making a move against a kid. <BR/><BR/>Re renaming the blog, I wasn't referring only to the rudeness, but just that it seems every time I read your blog it seems to be more about your adventures against playing some kid or other. Most of your posts seem to eventually come around to "...and so I got paired against the kid..."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-5209608555036681322009-03-20T02:03:00.000-04:002009-03-20T02:03:00.000-04:00Anon 4:30: No need to rename the blog. Most of th...Anon 4:30: No need to rename the blog. Most of the kids I encounter at tournaments are polite and well behaved. I've seen plenty of boorish adults too. Like the adult tonight who wouldn't shake his young opponent's hand after losing on time. He waved off the extended hand and said something like "You won, I know."Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-38668738647062354882009-03-19T21:30:00.000-04:002009-03-19T21:30:00.000-04:00In our local club he would be banned at least for ...In our local club he would be banned at least for the next tournament, maybe forever. Such players, when they grow up, can do more harm, like accuse somebody of cheating, etc. Your behavior is kind of understandable, though mentioning your incident to the TD after the tournament definitely wouldn't hurt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-66704419875226798242009-03-19T16:30:00.000-04:002009-03-19T16:30:00.000-04:00I think you handled it well. I agree about the psy...I think you handled it well. I agree about the psych out factor, and it is not your job to teach the kid social skills. However it was appropriate to relate your experience to the td. <BR/><BR/>Btw do people consider it rude not to say hello/good game in internet speed chess?<BR/><BR/>I think you should rename your blog Adult vs Kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-51701080718157691232009-03-19T12:35:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:35:00.000-04:00Anon: I'm not comfortable posting names of people ...Anon: I'm not comfortable posting names of people that I criticize in my blog. I also chose not mention the name of the player who was called a fagot. I will let the tournament director and club officers deal with him. If anyone really wants to know they will eventually find the results and figure it out.Pollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747958243702670987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-18538598167989021432009-03-19T12:22:00.000-04:002009-03-19T12:22:00.000-04:00You should mention his name - although in a couple...You should mention his name - although in a couple days we can find out via the USCF crosstables online. But one time-tested way to adjust antisocial behavior is public shaming. He's young enough to hopefully learn to pretend to play nice, even if he is mentally incapable of actually being nice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-17678748527571625012009-03-19T10:41:00.000-04:002009-03-19T10:41:00.000-04:00oops.. in the above post, the moves should read 40...oops.. in the above post, the moves should read 40, 41 and 42. not 30, 31 and 32. apologiestanchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10248501580728956514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-67121674641648379232009-03-19T10:39:00.000-04:002009-03-19T10:39:00.000-04:0039... Bxh530. Ne6 and the Black Queen has only 2 m...39... Bxh5<BR/>30. Ne6 and the Black Queen has only 2 moves to stop the loss of the bishop.<BR/><BR/>30... Qg6 allows<BR/>31. Nf4 winning the Bishop<BR/><BR/>30.... Qg8<BR/>31. Nc7 attacking Rook and Knight. If Rook moves the Knight is lost with 32. Rxe7+.<BR/><BR/>Polly, I've met many an obnoxious kid in my 1st year of competitive chess last year.<BR/><BR/>It's the adults who are worst sometimes. I don't really care if a kid is prat. I just do my best to try and take revenge over the board instead.<BR/><BR/>Victory is always sweet when you have the added incentive. :)tanchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10248501580728956514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-36994873662015161542009-03-19T07:55:00.000-04:002009-03-19T07:55:00.000-04:00BTW, after 39 Re1, why couldn't he have replied 39...BTW, after 39 Re1, why couldn't he have replied 39...Bxh5?<BR/><BR/>MartyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-6447284768831952262009-03-19T07:52:00.000-04:002009-03-19T07:52:00.000-04:00I think I agree with your husband that the right t...I think I agree with your husband that the right thing to do in that situation would be to stop the clock at the get-go and advise the kid that you were not ready and that the right thing to do is ask before starting the clock. However, in reality, I probably would have let it go to avoid a possible unpleasant confrontation.<BR/><BR/><BR/>MartyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5114234807276194338.post-74826427867346683092009-03-19T01:16:00.000-04:002009-03-19T01:16:00.000-04:00If that boy was a member of my club he wouldn't be...If that boy was a member of my club he wouldn't be anymore after such stunt.<BR/><BR/>The not giving a handshake and exchange some pleasantries like good game or may the best one win is oke but calling somebody a fagot ... that's way over it.From the patzerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04499383398575774704noreply@blogger.com