I was tempted to stop the clock and say "No I'm not ready. What about shaking hands and giving an appropriate greeting?" However since I had filled in all the information on my Mon Roi, and was ready to play I didn't say anything. I didn't feel like being confrontational before the game even started. I thought maybe this was his way of trying to psych me out, and I wasn't going to indulge him in his little mind game. I just made my first move and pressed his clock. I didn't give his behavior any more thought at the time, and played a very interesting game. We reached the position below:
39. Re1. Actually 39. Bd1 f5 40. Kh2 Rb8 41. Rf1 Qf6 42. Kh3 gives me some interesting play. My opponent played 39... f5. I had debated between 40. Qe3 and 40. Re5. After 40. Qe3? he played 40... fxg4. I was mentally kicking myself in the butt because I totally had overlooked the in between move of 41...gxf3+ if I play 41. Qxg5. I'm losing two pawns because of 40. Qe3. I'm thinking to myself I should have played Re5. The problem with the mental beat down is one is prone to making more stupid moves. The game continued 41. Bd1 Qxe3 42.Rxe3 Bxh5 43. Nxc6? I made this move way too fast. I thought I had found a way to get my material back. 43...Nxc6 44. Rxe8 I'm thinking that I've won the exchange, but I had forgotten about the bishop on h5. 44...Bxe8 0-1
I should note that 40. Re5 is not as good as I thought it was going to be. My best response is 40. Kh1 fxg4 41. Bxg4 Bxh5 42.Rg1 Rf8 43. Qxf8 Qh4+ 44. Kg2 Qxg4+ 45. Kh2 Qh4+
After he took my rook, I knocked my king over, said "Good game". I also said something about feeling stupid about forgetting about his bishop on h5. He just got up and walked away. I don't even remember if we shook hands before he walked away. I thought that was kind of rude. Usually after a game people exchange a few comments about the game, help clean up the set, go post the result together and perhaps if there is time, go analyze the game. Sometimes the player who loses doesn't want discuss the game, and may just leave after putting the pieces away. I can understand that. I sometimes have games where I just want to be left alone. However, I would never blow off the opponent, be disrespectful or a poor loser.
I couldn't help to wonder what he would do if he lost. I found out after round four. He was 3-0 going into the last round. He was paired against the highest rated player who had lost in round 2, and had a 2-1 score. If he draws or wins the last round he wins clear first. He loses the game to his 12 year old opponent. His opponent is a talkative young kid. The kid means no harm, but if the teenager is not willing to engage in conversation after he wins, one can imagine how he's going to act when he loses. He told his opponent to shut up, and called him a little faggot.
I didn't know about until it was mentioned to the tournament director after the last game had been completed. I told the director how he had behaved before and after our game. The director said he lacks interpersonal relationship skills. That's putting it mildly if you ask me. The director did say he was going to deal with him, and perhaps not allow him to play in the next tournament. Hopefully the tournament director will discuss this with him since he's a member of the host club.
I had mentioned my encounter with the kid to my husband while we were having dinner later. My husband doesn't play chess. In his opinion I should have stopped the clock at the start and said something. He felt I was letting inappropriate behavior slide by ignoring his lack of pre-game etiquette, and that I was doing him no favors by not saying something. The inner mentor/coach/teacher wanted to say something, but the chess player who doesn't want the opponent to know she's annoyed by him didn't want to say anything. I may not have even said anything to the tournament director, instead just chalking it up typical teenager nerdiness. But but when he called the kid that came with me a little faggot that was over the top, and I felt the matter needed to be adressed.